The Wilderness

Are you wandering around with a wilderness mentality like I recently was? Thinking that you are always only ever going to be a failure and that you can't trust any decisions you make? I'm here to tell you today that it's time to enter the promised land!! It's time to dump the negative thinking and behaviors that got you where you are now. How?

Stop negative thinking as soon as you realize you are doing it.
Start telling yourself the truth.
Spend time with positive people.
Don't isolate. Get out. Summer will be here... someday!
Find fun and productive things to do.
Laugh more.
Change one thing at a time. What's not working for you right now? Start with that.
Tell someone you trust that you want to change. Have them hold you accountable.
Set goals. Real goals. Goals you can reach. Then write down the steps to getting there.

Your promised land is closer than you think. Don't spend 40 years wandering in the wilderness when you could actually be thriving in paradise!!

New Year 2014

Well, it's that time of year again. Some of us come to the end of a year with happiness and others with sadness because things didn't go as planned or as hoped. Typically, I dread this time of year. Sometimes it is hard to find hope when there is evidence all around you not to have it. But I challenge you to have it anyway!

I challenge you to find a theme for 2014. What is the ONE THING that you can focus on all year that will make all the difference in where you are now and where you will be 12 months from now? Just one thing. That's it. Focus on one. We can all do that.

Each year I have been picking a word for the year to help me in this endeavor. For 2011 it was LIVE. For 2012 it was DANCE (as in, "life isn't about waiting for the storms to pass, it's about learning to dance in the rain").  For 2013 it was ACCEPT (as in "In acceptance lieth peace").  I'm still working on 2014 but I think it's going to be something about letting go.

Life never turns out the way we hope or plan. It's just too messy to do so. All we can do is our very best in each and every moment that presents itself. That's it.

So find your word, your phrase, or your one thing that you can do this year to make it better than before. Go ahead. What have you got to lose? 

Focus

"If you're not focusing on what you want, then what you don't want will automatically find you."

~Toby Williams